Because of COVID, many people will experience a different Christmas than the ones they are used to having. One of the hallmarks of those early months of this pandemic was the isolation some people felt, because they were separated from their families.
And if you are facing that kind of separation for Christmas, there really isn't anything to say that will undo the reality of your grief about it. But I do want to encourage you not to give up on Christmas altogether.
Like I almost did.
Why I Wanted to Break Up with Christmas
When the holiday season began this year, which, for me, is in October, when Hallmark’s Christmas Countdown begins, I didn't have any way to watch their new Christmas movies. And for me, that tradition is now as much a part of my holiday experience as anything else I can think of, and just as important.
Their Christmas movies are the highlight of my holiday season, and have been for over a decade now. I remember when COVID-19 was first being talked about, I thought about Hallmark, and wondered if they would have to cancel Christmas this year. And when I found out not many months afterward that they had been able to make their movies, though not as many, I was thrilled!
It never occurred to me that I might not get to watch them. But when we moved, our expenses were a lot higher than I had expected and we couldn't afford cable or the Internet. So, I was facing a fall and Christmas season without Hallmark.
And I was so upset about it, that one of my first reactions was of the “take my marbles & go home” variety. If I couldn't have Hallmark, then by golly, I was not going to do Christmas at all this year!! And I meant business, I tell you.
But eventually, I began to think of ways that I could still make Christmas special, even if I couldn't watch the Christmas movies.
I came up with some ideas, and convinced myself that it wouldn't have to be a terribly awful, no good holiday season. :)
And that's what I want to encourage you to do.
Don't give up. But also, get as creative as you can about ways to make it special, no matter what will be different for you this year.
Hopefully, you will be able to connect with your family by video, but don't let that be the only solution. Come up with a few new ideas that add something to this season that you haven't had before.
5 Creative Ideas for a Hygge Cozy Christmas
(1) Maybe your kids could do a reading or put on a brief show, so the grandparents feel like they are watching TV, as they watch by video.
(2) Or videotape some of your normal family activities, like baking gingerbread cookies, or decorating the tree, that you normally wouldn't and upload those videos to your family.
(3) Perhaps you and your mom could plan the same Christmas dinner, and prepare it at the same time, by video. And then both families could eat at the same time, on camera
(4) Maybe you could prop the video camera on a pillow, in the chair where a family member would sit, and watch a movie together, and their view of you would be the same as if they were sitting in that chair.
(5) If you would normally go to one or the other's houses on Christmas Day, maybe instead, you could all open gifts at the same time, by video.
See what I mean? Get creative about how to work around not being together.
And whatever you come up with, I’m wishing for you to feel close and connected and happy, despite the distances.
See you tomorrow!
P.S. I am editing this post to add a note about the comments. My good blogger friend, Alice, who blogs at Alice's Grand Adventures, tells a story of a beautiful virtual Thanksgiving and their plans to do something similar for Christmas and New Year's Eve or Day. make sure you don't miss those ideas.
And my friend, Pamela, who blogs at Doggone Healthy Choices, asked how to corral older, non-techie parents or relatives who tend to be set in their ways. Read my suggestions if your family situation is similar.
Then, tell me what your plans are for virtual celebrations! :)
Hi, I'm Jeanine
Author, tea matchmaker, self care coach and lifestyle blogger. I help women who want more time for tea breaks & self care simplify, and find time for both. More here.