Have you ever noticed that when you look at a picture album or scrapbook, a lot of the photos have someone missing? And instead of taking turns, it is often the very same person each time, who is not captured by the camera: Mom.
I hope this blog post will give you at least one very important reason to be in your Christmas pictures this year….
I used to hate to have my picture taken. They never seemed to look right, and I often walked away from the experience feeling badly about my weight, my bad hair day, my makeup or something else that jumped out at me.
Picture takers don’t always pay close enough attention to whether or not everyone in the picture looks good. What matters most to them is that everyone is in the picture, not how they look.
But to those of us who don’t like being in pictures, it matters very much. I learned something, though, many years ago, when someone gently confronted me about the way I avoided having my picture taken.
She told me that when I am long gone, pictures of me will be all my son has to remind him of what I looked like through the years. And that just seeing me in pictures will bring back powerful memories that are likely to comfort him.
Which would be even more true of holiday memories.
Hearing that changed my mind immediately (or almost). I hope it has that impact on you, too.
And here’s a bonus reason.
Family pictures and scrapbooks help to cement your family identity and they strengthen your family’s bond. Each of you will feel the love connected to those moments long before anyone is gone too soon.
And your children may at times need reminders that you looked at them with love, no matter what is going on in your relationship at the moment when they are looking at those pictures. You might think that your careful record of every moment of their childhood is convincing enough, but they want to see and remember you, too, even while you are still with them.
So start to make sure you are in your memory photos, too. Especially during the holiday season. It will change things in ways you can’t yet imagine.
See you tomorrow!
Hi, I'm Jeanine
Author, tea matchmaker, self care coach and lifestyle blogger. I help women who want more time for tea breaks & self care simplify, and find time for both. More here.