The first rule of moving is to let go of perfection. Because it could be far from perfect for quite some time after the initial move.
And letting go of perfection may help, whether you have moved recently or not. Because we are moving into 2021, hoping for better, but it might be a while before 2021 looks or feels like the vision we have for it.
If you haven't moved recently, like I did, I encourage you, as you read this post, to think about your home with new eyes. Ask what you need to have in place for your home to nurture you this winter, and to provide a soft landing for your family and guests.
Questions to Consider for Your Home
What can you do now, while you wait to make any other changes you might have planned?
What do you want your 2021 living room to look like? How will it welcome guests?
What needs tweaking before it lives up to 2021’s potential?
The drawers? The closets? The furniture arrangements in each room?
Have your needs changed, in the past year, and if so, how can your home change with them?
Here's what I learned during my most recent move...
When I first moved into my current home, I was sitting on the floor and sleeping on a mattress for a week or two. I was glad to be home, but it sure didn't feel the way I had thought it would.
We were in transition, I guess you could say, which means living through a “not-yet” phase, for some of the things that are important to you. I’ll tell you what I learned about that from the Cozy Minimalist Home book, but first let me give you some ideas for those initial moments after a move...
What I Learned When I Moved
(1) First, get everything into the house or apartment at once. Unless you have to do it differently. Because it's too confusing to move in stages.
(2) Second, make sure that every box is in the right room. Ideally, you would do this as you are moving them in, but do a double check once you're done, and make sure it's all where it should be.
(3) Third, make up the beds, get out the toothbrushes, toothpaste and toilet paper.
(4) Fourth, get out paper plates and plan on ordering pizza for dinner.
(5) Fifth, if you're not half dead by then, open every box, so that if you (or anyone else) need something desperately, you will know where to find it. But by the way, if somehow, as you read this, you haven't moved yet, making a list of what's in each box and putting at the top of the box before taping it up will save you so much time!
Now, you have done the crucial things to get you through until you have all finished unpacking. Before you call it a night, set a date by which you all agree to be finished completely and plan a celebration for that date.
But here's one more thing each person should do. I read about it in Cozy Minimalist and its goal is to help you survive the not-yet phase.
Each child should unpack at least one thing that will make his or her room feel like home, even while its transformation is unfinished. Maybe it's a teddy bear, or something decorative, or just familiar.
Mom, you and dad can do the same in your room.
Then, choose one spot in the house where you can all spend time together and make that spot cozy. Even if it's just part of a room, move the boxes to another part and set it up so you guys can hang out there and feel warm and cozy.
Those feels like home spaces or things will help you during the transition, however long it is.
For me, it was a comfy, cozy chair in the living room.
We didn't have a sofa yet, or end tables, or a dining room table, or chairs. We didn't have any decorations up.
But the room was clean, I could see beautiful trees through the window, and I had a comfy chair to use as my command central. It's where I prayed, ate, worked from home, planned and dreamed.
And it felt like home!
If you’re just moving in, take a day to create a zone of sanity where you and your family can relax together. This is self-care of the home, which means it is self care for you and your family. - Cozy Minimalist Home: More Style, Less Stuff by Myquillyn Smith.
Once you have finished unpacking, and each room has all the basic necessities in it, it's time to start decorating. And sometimes the hardest part when facing the prospect of decorating your entire home is knowing where to start.
Lots of decorating books and articles will give you advice for what to do in each of the rooms, but which one is the best or most important place to start? Once again, The Cozy Minimalist Home has the answer.
Chose a room that has furniture, already.
I recommend her book for more steps to take as you decorate one room at a time. My suggestion would be to go slowly.
Once a room is functional, you can take your time and live in it for a while before deciding what to add where. Let your new home and your life in it, tell you what you need, and then, you can add the design part on top of it.
Once it is fully functional, though, fully decorated or not, you’re home!
Do you have any plans for a refresh of your home in 2021?
See you tomorrow!
Hi, I'm Jeanine
Author, tea matchmaker, self care coach and lifestyle blogger. I help women who want more time for tea breaks & self care simplify, and find time for both. More here.