You are to be congratulated just for beginning to read this article. For some reason, the concept of evening routines just isn't as sexy as morning routines.
I'm not sure why that is, but morning routine are all the rage and evening routines are stuck in the corner.
Here's what many people don't know. If you want your morning routine to work, what you need most is a near-perfect evening routine.
Let's bring that hygge evening routine to center stage.
The Hygge Evening Routine
As I mentioned above, a good hygge evening routine is a super cozy one designed to help get you ready for a well-functioning morning routine. But that's not it's only job.
Here are some other tasks it takes on each evening...
(1) Another very important job of a hygge evening routine is to help you gradually wind down so that your energy is not still at electric levels when the clock says bedtime. It can literally help to soothe you to sleep if you let it.
(2) Your hygge evening routine also can give you time to connect with those you care about, or time for the hobbies or passions that matter to you. We have to make time for the things that matter most, because if we don't, life will pass by without them.
But there's another extremely important job your hygge evening routine has to do, and doing it in a cozy way makes it much easier. It's your evening routine's most important job, actually, and if you go to all the effort of creating a cozy ritual that doesn't include it, you will miss out on something you can't afford to lose.
The Hygge Evening Routine's Most Important Job
Every hygge evening routine needs to include a letting go process. If you don't do something to let go of whatever went wrong today, you will take it with you into the next one! So your cozy evening ritual better have some letting go time scheduled in, or you have wasted very important time.
Think of it as being similar to taking out the trash.
There might be days when what you accumulate is so small, you don't think it's worth the bother to take it out of the house. But you stop to consider what's there, before you decide for sure.
This kind of reckoning with what's there is what I am talking about, that we each need to do every day. And obviously, on some days, there will be more to contend with than on others.
But if you have a process built into your daily routine, it won't matter, because it will all be handled, big or small.
7 Letting Go Techniques
There are many, many ways to let go when something goes wrong in your day. And sometimes, the letting go process can take time.
Healing can take time. And it may even require intervention from therapy or others outside of yourself.
But it's always going to be important to do what you can, so that the load you carry into each new day is as light as can be.
Let's look at some simple letting go ideas...
Start by heading for your coziest space and getting as comfortable as possible.
(1) Making a cup of tea and writing everything out in your journal.
(2) Or, it may help to pause, and really think everything through and feel the moment you want to let go of, before writing it down, so that you take more note of the transition as you let it go.
(3) If you have a fireplace, and a fire going, you could write down what happened and throw the piece of paper into the fire.
(4) You can create a ritual of the letting go process by doing several of these activities in order. You could start by lighting a tealight candle, and end by bowing it out, after saying a prayer for healing.
(5) You also could use a tealight candle as part of a letting go exercise: On a slip of paper write down the negative thought, negative moment or painful feeling you want to let go of and place it beneath your tealight candle.
Light the candle and sip your tea, imagining that as the tealight burns away, so is whatever you are letting go of in that moment. Once it has burned down fully, the letting go exercise is complete.
(6) Another idea is to use water. You can take a bath or even just wash your hands and have the intention that you are letting go of whatever happened, and watching it go down the drain.
(7) A brief grounding meditation that also may be used as a letting go exercise is to place your feet flat on the floor and imagine that you are sending the thoughts and feelings connected to whatever happened down through your body and out of the bottom of your feet down through the earth. Way down deep.
When you feel complete with that letting go moment, mentally begin to focus on these affirmations - "I am grounded. I am safe. I am centered." Repeat them until you feel complete with the exercise.
Do You Have a Hygge Evening Routine?
What are your thoughts about the power of an evening routine to help facilitate your morning routine?
And how do you feel about including a letting go process in your hygge evening routine - do you agree that it is critical to do so? I'm also wondering if you have a hygge evening routine yet.
See you tomorrow!
Hi, I'm Jeanine
Author, tea matchmaker, self care coach and lifestyle blogger. I help women who want more time for tea breaks & self care simplify, and find time for both. More here.