When my son was little, and it was time for bed, there were times when he would look at me, smile, and say, “best day ever!” with great enthusiasm. It was always such a delight to hear it.
And for a while there, I could look forward to hearing "best birthday ever" and “best Christmas ever.”
As a young man of 19, I don’t ever hear him say that now. But when I remind him that he used to say it in the past, he remembers those moments as happy ones.
If only it were still that easy to create those feelings of happiness.
Well, what if it is?
How can we retrieve happy memories from the past and create happy memories in the present? - Meik Wiking, The Art of Making Memories
The question of how to be happy, in general, in the midst of stressful adulting, or financial concerns, or other things that come and go regularly as a part of life, can be overwhelming.
But there’s good news. You can create happiness one moment at a time. And separate those moments from any stress you are currently experiencing.
Create a Hygge Lifestyle One Moment at a Time
Creating a hygge lifestyle is one of the easiest ways to create a lifetime of happiness.
But before we dive into how to create a happy hygge lifestyle, let's take another look at exactly what hygge is. Because, as I point out in the video, it's so much more than you might think...
So having taken a look at what hygge is and what a life dedicated to it might look like, it’s a little easier to understand why a hygge moment might create a happy memory. Hygge moments might even lead to feelings of nostalgia.
In Meik Wiking’s book about creating memories, he informs us that happiness research points to feelings of nostalgia as the key to being happy with your life as a whole. Not only can nostalgia lead to happier feelings, it also can increase your sense of being loved, and can help you create a positive narrative about your life.
So telling yourself a positive story about your life, seen through the lens of nostalgia, is a likely road to sustained happiness. And sense nostalgia is connected to the past, it means that you need to create the kind of memories that you will feel nostalgic about in the future.
But here’s an important thing to consider...
The past is five minutes ago, yesterday morning, last weekend, one day last month, and a year or so ago. The future is tonight, tomorrow afternoon, next Tuesday, a few months from now and next year.
Tonight, you can have feelings of nostalgia about what happened this morning, or this afternoon! Just like my son used to do when he was younger.
And if happy memories are made one moment at a time, then it’s not too late to have a happy day before you go to sleep tonight, no matter what time it is right now. And you can plan for happy moments tomorrow.
Why does one tomorrow matter, in a lifetime?
Because hygge moments can add up to create hygge days, and hygge days, one after another, become hygge weeks, etc.
Hi, I'm Jeanine
Author, tea matchmaker, self care coach and lifestyle blogger. I help women who want more time for tea breaks & self care simplify, and find time for both. More here.