You could easily do either of these exercises at anytime during the day. When you first get up, while drinking your morning or afternoon tea. With your children, as you complete a day of homeschooling or at bedtime. With your family, just before or after dinner. Try them several times in one day and take note of how you feel at the end, writing down your thoughts & feelings in your journal just before you go to bed that night.
Hygge Letting Go Tealight Exercise
This is a great exercise for daily transitions from one moment to another. You can do it as you sip your morning tea, or at the end of your day, or anytime your kids need a tealight break.
If your kids are in school, you could use it when they come home, to let go of any stress from their day at school.
You'll need a tealight candle. I'd get a box or a bag, so you'll always have one when you need it. And scrap paper or tiny post-it notes, with a pencil to write down whatever you are letting go with this exercise.
At times, you also may need more time and process so that the letting go doesn't happen so fast, it hardly seems real. During those moments, take your time.
Make a cup of tea, write a little more about the situation in your journal and then, when you feel completely ready to let go, then you can move on to the rest of the exercise.
On a slip of paper write down the negative thought, negative moment or painful feeling you want to let go of and place it beneath your tealight candle. Light the candle and sip your tea, imagining that as the tealight burns away, so is whatever you are letting go of in that moment.
Once it has burned down fully, the letting go exercise is complete. Notice how you feel, but if you don't notice any change in the way you feel yet, don't worry.
Sometimes it takes time for your mind, body, heart and soul to process a change that has just occurred. But with any letting go exercise, your intention itself is powerful. The exercise is a physical demonstration and following through on the commitment you made to let go.
Eventually - and sometimes, it will happen almost immediately - you will feel differently about whatever you let go of and when you think of it in the future, you won't react the same way.
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