If you were designing an ideal Christmas/holiday experience, what would you want it to include?
I've been reading articles about how different this holiday season will be, and have just survived part one, with only a vague sense of regret. But I hear that a pandemic Christmas might feel worst than a Thanksgiving one.
So I decided to have a think about what it would mean to have an ideal Christmas, anyway. I mean, was it going to be ideal without the pandemic?
2020 has gifted us all with a unique opportunity: to shed traditions that weren’t really working for us anyway, and start fresh. - Amy Hearn
Designing My Ideal Christmas: My Top Ten Wishes
(1) There would be an honest-to-goodness fireplace - no chance of that since I live in an apartment.
(2) I would get to see or talk to my mom - she passed away two years ago.
(3) I'd find and decorate a real tree - I'm fiercely allergic, so no luck there, either.
(4) My son would be so delighted by his gifts, he'd throw up his hands and his face would light up - so many reasons why this is impossible...
-my son is 19 and therefore is way too cool to react that way.
-this is going to be a lean holiday and that kind of excitement would be expensive to create, even if it were possible
(5) I'd have a morning cup of apple cinnamon tea, light a candle and read a Christmas romance novel - aha! That one could actually happen.
(6) I'd watch delightful Hallmark Christmas movies with my son, while we drank hot chocolate and ate popcorn, like we used to do - sadly, he isn't into holiday movies anymore, but I could do that by myself. Wouldn't be the same, though.
(7) I'd hang out with a group of friends and play Christmas-themed board games in the afternoon - even without the pandemic, this wouldn't work.
-we're not really settled yet in the new apartment.
-I'd have to buy the board games, and my budget is limited.
(8) There would be ham, a broccoli, cheese and pasta casserole, and apple pie and ice cream - that's one we could do.
(9) I'd get gifts that would make me excited about having them in the new year - that could still happen, but it's definitely not guaranteed.
(10) I'd get to meet Santa - you know, if I'm going to dream, I might as well reach for the moon.
So, let's see where we ended up. What might I do this Christmas?...
I could put a fireplace video on my laptop. I can light a candle and have a cup of tea, while reading. I could create a wish list of a few things I'd be excited to take into the new year (like the Apple Crumble, and pina colada teas I am currently out of, and a couple of the Torani syrups I'd like to try). I can watch Hallmark Christmas movies and make hot chocolate and/or eat popcorn. We could have ham and pasta and pie.
Not so bad, really. Not too shabby!
Notice how many wishes are not even affected by the pandemic? And how many of my wishes would be impossible, anyway?
So much has changed for my son and me in the past few years, that this would be a good time to re-evaluate our traditions, anyway. And maybe create new ones.
The value — and the magic — of rituals is that they can give us whatever we need in that moment. They can give us comfort if that’s what we need, or confidence, or joy. -Eleni Gage,Lucky in Love: Traditions, Customs and Rituals to Personalize Your Wedding.
What Would Make Your Holiday Ideal?
Take a moment to think about it. What would be ideal?
Tell me in a comment and I will wish or commiserate with you.
See you tomorrow!
Hi, I'm Jeanine
Author, tea matchmaker, self care coach and lifestyle blogger. I help women who want more time for tea breaks & self care simplify, and find time for both. More here.